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Sometimes I will get in this mood where I just want to hold a woman/theoretical girlfriend. Nothing particularly sexual, more this heartfelt desire to wrap my arms around her, feel her close, feel like I'm "protecting" her, etc etc. In said mood (luckily, only in said mood) it feels like I'm missing a part of myself and need to hold her to "complete" me.


Woke up this way today and found the pillow will not do.



So my question is, do women sometimes have similar, corresponding needs/desires to be held? Cuddle up and feel their guy protecting them and whatnot. I'm wondering if this is just a neat little emotional way people "go together." Or is this just me, waking up alone on a cold day?
- November 6th, 2009, 06:18 pm
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You are not alone. I want to hold and be held and I'm feeling sorry for myself tonight so I want it all the more.
- November 6th, 2009, 06:22 pm
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Aren't you the guy who is "devastated" when matches close you?

I think perhaps your nerves and/or anxieties are getting the better of you. Perhaps counseling and/or medication can be helpful. I am being sincere about this.
- November 6th, 2009, 06:24 pm
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melman wrote :
Aren't you the guy who is "devastated" when matches close you?

I think perhaps your nerves and/or anxieties are getting the better of you. Perhaps counseling and/or medication can be helpful. I am being sincere about this.
I believe you have me confused with someone else?
- November 6th, 2009, 07:08 pm
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It's not just you. Sometimes I crave being held so much that the cells in my skin physically ache. I feel it most strongly in the skin of my back and the back of my arms i.e. places where the guy's arms would be if he was holding me.
- November 6th, 2009, 07:16 pm
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I believe this is the guy I want for my daughter.
Was that my outside voice?
- November 6th, 2009, 07:16 pm
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No, I checked. You wrote about how being closed with the reason of "Other" (and please please please let us not reopen that discussion again) "rends the ego" and was "heartbreaking".

But I am serious. For a guy to imagine himself needing to hold someone who isn't there? Feeling incomplete and all that. That ain't right. Maybe you're watching too much Oprah.
- November 6th, 2009, 07:16 pm
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I feel this way, definitely, and I've never even been held.
- November 6th, 2009, 07:20 pm
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It's the one thing I miss most.
- November 6th, 2009, 07:31 pm
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I miss it too.
- November 6th, 2009, 07:50 pm
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