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handsomeItalian is offline handsomeItalian Post #1  November 1,2009, 2:26am
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I'm attracted to qualities in a Woman that would turn off a typical guy. I find when a Woman is an independent thinker, her own person, has her own passionate interests, is a big turn on! If a woman is ambitious, maybe a business owner, owns her own home or has accomplished something to call her own and doesn't put up with BS or disrespect from others and is straight forward is awesome! I love that!
The thing I've found is that when 2 people are like-minded in this way it's hard to come together even to get to know each other, especially as a Male looking for these qualities in a Woman...becuz a Woman who's independent, has her own thing going on...doesn't need a man, BUT wants a man who can be a partner, someone who challenges her on her level isn't going to easily let another into her personal space and vice-versa...I find there's an aloofness, a standoff-ish vibe towards getting to know someone who's interested in her.
Not really a question, just something personal I wanted to share.

Is being independent extremely important to you, but at the same time wanting a sense of companionship with someone who feels the same?
 
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Arrh, yes. I fully agree. I've loved a number of strong willed woman. Exciting, challenging, only dangerous when you're in their sights. But a mistake I'll happliy keep repeating.

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interesting ...
 
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I consider the qualtities you list to be a minimum standard all women need to meet to justify opening communication.

It is from within this group I start making individual judgments.

I have never encountered difficulty or "standoff-ishness" in this group. In fact, these are the people with the emotional health and basic life capacity necessary to sustain a relationship.
 
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BikerBeagle is offline BikerBeagle Post #5  November 1,2009, 7:45am
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Well, good for you? ...how's that working out for you so far? ...better now that you are advertising?

Wait, you forgot to mention ...she has to be really really hot too.

Sorry, I find this post amusing ...and incredibly naive.
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BikerBeagle wrote :
Well, good for you? ...how's that working out for you so far? ...better now that you are advertising?

Wait, you forgot to mention ...she has to be really really hot too.

Sorry, I find this post amusing ...and incredibly naive.
So I take it that your love life must be much better than his?
 
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As an independent woman traversing this world of dating, I can see some of what he's saying -- I know some women who do distance themselves, mainly because they are afraid of running into a parasite; someone who just wants what they have, but not who they are. I find that even though I am funny, charming, and easy-going, many men aren't attracted to the fact that I have a career and can take care of myself. I do want a companion that I would work with to make a life with, but what I don't want is an overlord or know-it-all that tries to drain me.
Don't worry, handsomeitalian - -there are plenty of friendly, funny, sweet, independent women out there!
 
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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #8  November 1,2009, 8:58am
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handsomeItalian wrote :
I'm attracted to qualities in a Woman that would turn off a typical guy.
Why do you believe the qualities you listed... would be a turn off for us "typical guys"??
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I have never encountered difficulty or "standoff-ishness" in this group. In fact, these are the people with the emotional health and basic life capacity necessary to sustain a relationship.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #10  November 1,2009, 12:11pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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I think the independence and the 'aloofness' / 'standoffishness' are distinct things. There are even dependent women who are aloof. Some are this way and some aren't.
 
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